Becoming An Encourager

It is so annoying when people just say things without thinking. I know I am annoyed with myself when I do it! Words just pop out that I really wasn’t expecting to say. Where do these words come from? Thoughts! I don’t know who is more surprised, me or the one my words were aimed at.  Our emotions run high and out pops our thoughts.  The Bible provides some helpful instruction on how to manage our words. We can learn to be encouragers rather than destroyers.

Words matter, for they have the power to harm or help. James 5:12 (KJV) gives us a warning:

“But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath:  but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.”

What’s in your heart?

The first thing we need is consistency. Speech reveals the heart. What we say is often times exactly what we think. In the heat of the moment, our innermost thoughts that we’ve kept secret are suddenly and often violently revealed. If people thought you were kind hearted, they will soon know the truth if your thoughts don’t match up to your words.

Our inner thoughts and feelings need to match up with the image we portray to the world. If they don’t, then we need to start confessing those ugly thoughts as sin. It’s time to clean up and be consistent in our deeds and thoughts. If we don’t, then we lose all credibility and trust.

Becoming an encourager requires a level of trust with the person who needs encouragement. Before you can tell someone what to do or how to do it, you need to establish a relationship. If you want people to listen to you, having a good reputation helps. People will take your encouragement seriously if they see you living out what you preach.

Oftentimes giving the best kind of encouragement requires some prayer time. Seek God’s direction on how to encourage in the best possible way. Ask for guidance on the choice of words you use and Scripture verses that will be most helpful. God answers prayer!

James 5:16 says:  “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

Sharing a testimony of how God has changed your life will be a huge encouragement! Knowing that God hears and works in someone’s life is absolutely life changing to those who have never experienced God’s power. Intercede in prayer for those you encourage. Pray over even the seemingly little things. Oftentimes those are the biggest struggles.

To be an effective encourager, please keep your sin confessed and forsaken. If you have a habitual lifestyle of sin, it makes your encouragement seem rather lame. Obviously God isn’t supreme in your life if you take His Word so lightly that sin doesn’t phase you. Maybe you need someone to encourage you!

There is much wisdom in the Bible. Be a good accountability partner and encourager by sharing Scripture as encouragement. Man’s wisdom isn’t always the best thing to offer. Scripture carries weight because it is from God. People will be more willing to hear what God says than what a mere mortal says.

It’s not easy to speak just the right words at the time most needed. Pray before you approach someone and seek to come alongside with encouragement. Make sure this is what God would have you to do.

Be encouraged with these words from James 5:19-20:

“Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him; Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way, shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.


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